To Forgive & To Forget

Will you be able to do so? Let’s forgive and forget. This sentence was uttered to a friend by a lady at the end of last year. Having sincerely apologizing for her misbehavior *with tears, hugs and words of wisdom, that friend told her that she is forgiven and shall forget what had happened. But, does the friend be able to do that? Hmmmm.. The friend said that she had forgiven the lady but the incident remains freshly intact in the friend's head. I wonder why? I believe every and each of us have gone through many of such experience.

I remember during one of the Sunday service I attended to, a Pastor said, to forgive, it has to come from the heart and only then you will be able to forget.

Art print by Thierry Ona

Could it be that the forgiveness was not sincere enough? But how to determine that? Is there a yardstick to measure the sincerity? The friend told me that the pain was unbearable, the lady's action was unthinkable and of course the friend was pissed off as she never expect such behavior from a lady who's about the same age of her mother.

I quote from Sunday Pearson:-

A long lost friend once said, time is the best medicine. In that case, lets time heal and seal the wound.